I received a rejection the other day to my story “Warm Cookies.” I’ve got a few more markets I’m going to send it out to, but if I don’t get it placed, you lovely readers (all three of you!) will get to snack on it.

Rejection is an unfortunate but apparently necessary part of any writer’s career path. I say apparently because we don’t really want it to be. It just is.

Being rejected sucks. There’s no two ways about it. It just blows chunks. It makes me feel like my writing isn’t worthwhile. It makes me feel as if I’m just spinning my wheels. It makes me feel as if every writer out there is SO much better than me and why do I even bother because I obviously suck and can’t string three words together that anyone wants to read.

And that’s okay. I don’t mind feeling those things. But when we feel those things, we have to realize it’s just our disappointment. None of those statements is true. Wallow in it. Feel sorry for yourself. Tell yourself how horrible your writing is or how short-sighted the editor is or how no one appreciates your art EVAR! And then? Get over it. Put your butt back in the chair, send that story/novel/proposal out again, then pull out your current WIP and get on it.

Getting hurt is never fun, but we keep going. We keep putting our work out there to either be stomped on or held up and revered. We hope for the latter, but we have to go through a whole crapload of the former to get there. It’s a journey.

So, I got rejected this week, but I still #amwriting. What? You say you don’t know what that means with the funny pound sign in front? It’s a hashtag we use on Twitter to share triumphs and pain, to keep motivated and motivate others (and yes, sometimes to guilt others too). But it’s what we do. We’re writers. I’m a writing. Therefore, I #amwriting.

So follow me on Twitter and write with me!

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1   NarfNitsirk    
July 21st, 2010 at 4:46 am

I know how you feel…
I try and remind myself of the ratio of authors to markets, and that it’s all so very subjective. Doesn’t mean my stuff is BAD, means the editor didn’t like it. (This clarity usually comes after a bit of sulking and wound licking, as you said.) Then, back on the horse.
I’m having so much fun writing on Twitter. Now I feel like I would be (self)shamed if I didn’t have something to toss up there.

2   Sally Bosco    
July 27th, 2010 at 10:18 pm

Hi Vanessa: I just found your blog. Yeah, I feel your pain. I’ve been trying to get an agent for my Werecat Chronicles, and I’m getting better rejections, but that still doesn’t add up to an acceptance. I think I have a unique perspective on rejection, because I used to do musical theater, and when you get rejected at an audition, it’s to your face and with other people watching, so the email rejections aren’t nearly as bad. Best of luck with placing your story. Sally

3   Kevin N.    http://www.kevinnumerick.me/
September 6th, 2010 at 10:48 am

I will happily read your story. :) Warm Cookies just sounds good. And..how did I not already have you on follow on twitter? But, I DO NOW, so error corrected ! :)

4   Moira Reid    http://www.readmoore.com/
September 11th, 2010 at 4:54 pm

Amazingly, the pain just begins with the acceptance. The edits can be one big … oh wait. You know how it is, don’t ya? :-)

I think writers must be gluttons for punishment. That’s the only thing that can explain why we keep doing it. We like pain.

We must like it a lot.

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